DO pick a theme and run with it. Wild west, lego figures, the colour orange. Go nuts and go all out.
DON’T fret the details once you have a month to go. I promise that you will be the only one to notice.
DO spend some time early on trawling blogs for fun ideas, and try to DIY as much as possible to save the pennies. Work out how much time you’re going to need for everything and stick to it.
DON’T turn down offers of help with your DIY. You may be a control freak (ahem) but spending an afternoon cutting out fabric circles with your bridesmaids will let everyone feel like they’ve contributed and take some of the pressure off you.
DO give yourself time to relax in the last couple of days before your wedding. Be it a manicure, a long run or a couple of hours in the park with a book, take the time for yourself ALONE.
DON’T spend that down-time fretting about things. Mark the calendar on the day of your down-time and once you reach that point, accept that what’s done is done, and nothing else is going to happen after that point.
DO give everyone at least a week’s notice of the running order and make sure you share all contact details with all the team. Designate tasks to people and then forget about it. It’s their job now.
DON’T think about that stuff on the day – there’s nothing you can do at this point, so don’t worry, just be zen.
DO try to say at least a hello to everyone – they will appreciate this.
DON’T kill yourself having a heart-to-heart with every single guest. They will understand that you have tons of other people to get round too!
DO try to find five minutes to be alone with your partner on the day. It’s a cliché but it will fly by so take time to appreciate it.
DON’T beat yourself up if this doesn’t happen. You might just find that you don’t want to leave the party…
DO double-check when the venue wants final payment. Nothing worse than being surprised on the night with a bill for several thousand pounds and no way of paying it…